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This month we are exploring happiness… and this couldn’t come at a better time.  I’m about to lose my home, that makes me unhappy.  My 8 year and 6 month marriage dissolved 3 months before my 9 year wedding anniversary and the 10 year anniversary of when we met. Very high on the unhappy meter.  I have these small moments where I’m sad, I am distraught, I’m confused about why someone you love would completely obliterate everything good you believed in them, why would someone walk out (twice) on their child and why life seems so cruel. I blamed  myself for being naïve and wanted to love someone who may never really actually loved me.  So, this puts me as “ZERO NO-HIGHEST” on the unhappy meter. Unhappy @Efabulous1… is not fabulous.

So at some point, I put my big girl panties on today.
I said TO MYSELF …. BE HAPPY.

Lose home and move into tiny apartment with daughter and dog.  That’s okay because I have nice furniture and I really and truly adore my daughter and my dog, plus what’s wonderful is that they love me back and have never once abandoned me.  Sure it’s coming in the future, but those are my best friends right now.

Heart Broken, well… they say to have loved, is better to have never loved at all.  Okay, I will take that silver lining.

Fiscally ruined by divorce proceedings, well it’s no escaping the financial horror of divorce – however there are a lot of people doing a lot worse.

Sarcoidosis and other health issues… triggered by stress, so my job is not to STRESS OUT.
So at some point, I looked at my face in the mirror and remembered I was once a beautiful young girl, with a huge heart, a hearty laugh and I loved the world and all that was in it.

I said to myself…. BE HAPPY.

…and damnit it’s an uphill battle, but I rather fight the good fight to inject happiness, joy, peace and authenticity in my life, than to die inside from marginalizing myself ever again.

That made me internally happy and at peace.

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SO, OCTOBER IS “HAPPINESS MONTH”! We will be exploring what makes people happy.  Is there a formula for happiness? How can you keep an IV or “happiness” on tap, so you can invoke those positive feelings and affirmations of positive living at a whim’s notice. Do send us your testimonials of  happiness, ideas… we’d love to share them.

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To start the month off right, we must examine some ideas, notions, concoctions, suggestions and all thing HAPPY.  Yet, let’s take a very intellectual approach to start.

In 1960, journalist Gordon Young asked Carl Jung, “What do you consider to be more or less basic factors making for happiness in the human mind?” Jung answered with five elements:

1. Good physical and mental health.
2. Good personal and intimate relationships, such as those of marriage, the family, and friendships.
3. The faculty for perceiving beauty in art and nature.
4. Reasonable standards of living and satisfactory work.
5. A philosophic or religious point of view capable of coping successfully with the vicissitudes of life.

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What say you… do you agree?

I am thankful for my daughter.
I am thankful for my real friends.
I am thankful for my mind and education.
I am thankful for my willingness to love and accept others.
I am thankful for being alive, no matter how much pain I am suffering now.

Even in the darkness of the night, when the devil lurks to fertilize for mind with depression and sadness… There is a great POWER in calling out what made you happy, so you know the day… A day out of your life was not a total loss.

Everyday is a WIN… I am slowly learning.

Everyday is a WIN.